Thursday, September 01, 2011
What NOT to say to a person with cancer...
In the spirit if Lymphoma Awareness month....
What NOT to say to a person with cancer:
1. Never tell a person with cancer about a relative, or loved one who died of cancer.
2. Never offer (alternative) treatment options, when you know I'm already on treatment. It just confuses things, and my mind is already overflowing with managing my new life with C.
3. When you learn I have Hodgkin's, vs. Non-Hodkin's Lymphoma, don't say "oh, you got the 'good' cancer.' Having cancer is never good.
4. Never say "At least they caught it early." Actually, I was MIS-diagnosed over a year ago, when I was having the very symptoms I got diagnosed with. this means cancer has been in my body, a year and a half before i even got the accurate diagnosis.
5. "I know how you feel." No, you don't. Not unless you've had or currently have cancer.
Here's what you CAN say to a person with cancer:
1. Stories of hope. I have no problem hearing about your friends and family who have had lymphoma, beat it, and are doing great now. That’s helpful.
2. Real, honest, specific offers for help.
3. Sympathy, not pity.
5. I love you. This can never be said enough. :)